What does a doula look like?
I honestly could not tell you.
Sorry. There is no one type of person who pursues doula work. Doulas provide support in many different situations and different people find themselves doing this work, so there’s no one doula “uniform”.
I can tell you what you can expect to see in your doula:
Your doula is going to listen to you.
A doula’s first job is to learn your specific needs and respond to them appropriately. Sometimes a doula will respond with a resource or technique to support you and your family. Sometimes, a doula might just validate your experience. Whatever a doula is doing for you, your doula is doing because she understood it was something you asked for.
Your doula is going to have helpful hands.
Your doula’s hands are there to guide you and to respond to your physical needs through labor and postpartum. You will learn their warmth and strength when she guides your partner in doing a double hip squeeze. They might feel be a bit dry from washing your dishes, or soft from the coconut oil she used in showing you the strokes of infant massage.
Your doula is going to have perception.
Throughout our training and experiences, we learn to anticipate a family’s needs and to decode what a parent is saying to us. Sometimes, the words are, “what’s the best bottle I can buy?” But the deeper question is, “how can I prepare for feeding this baby when I am not there?” Your doula learns how to help families ask those questions AND find their right answers.
Your doula wears comfortable footwear.
While I have been known to wear heeled boots to interviews, and I have no problem kicking off my shoes in someone’s house (if that is what they want), you will most often find me in a pair of cute socks and athletic shoes with great arch support. Why? Because I want to be comfortable and maintain my physical stamina for supporting you. Also, closed-toe shoes are just a good idea around labor situations.
Your doula probably carries a hair tie.
There is no rule against looking fly on the job, but especially on a long day or night, a doula with long hair will often find themselves needing to pull it back to focus on the task at hand – the care and support of you.
Every doula is a little bit different, but I assure you, we will meet your needs no matter how we look.
Learn about my availability for your needs here.